Home Birth From A Dad’s Perspective

By Simon Gray

6:38 in the morning in our Roleystone home, my daughter was born and we immediately became part of a rogue subculture.  Now anyone that knows me would probably be surprised to hear that I wasn’t part of a rogue subculture already.  In fact, even I’m a bit taken aback that it took this long!  But I never imagined that my golden ticket to one of society’s little known, much misunderstood niche groups would be for something that human beings have been doing for millions of years.

It was around 5:30am when Pammy first started getting contractions.  I knew this was different when she mentioned that a good brisk walk through the bush was in order, but I managed to convince her otherwise and ran her a warm bath instead.  We’d been in training previously with a month’s worth of Braxton Hicks, which served to completely confuse the real labour pains when they finally started coming. This could also be argued as a benefit of being relaxed in an environment you know intimately. I phoned Clare Davison, our registered independent midwife, and started getting on with tasks she’d allotted to me: Sterilising a few medical implements and filling up the birth pool.

We’d set up the birthing room previously with a fresh coat of paint, art, prayer flags, a stock of supplies required for the birth and more fairy lights than is usually advisable for normal human interactions.  The birthing pool was pre-inflated in the middle of the room. A small futon was set up nearby in another corner, with candles and incense sticks on standby.  I have it on good authority that the finished effect was worth the effort but we hardly noticed any of it when the time came.

Clare Davison Independent Midwife

When Clare arrived at 6:15am, Pammy was out of the bath and on the futon in the birthing room.  I’d filled the pool so far with a garden hose but then realised that a birth into cold water probably wouldn’t be a fantastic way to enter the world.  So, like a Hollywood cliché, I started boiling water like a madman!  As I tentatively carried another large and steaming pot through the tangle of hose, it became clear that Pammy was further along than we’d thought.

She had inexplicably decided that she was going to take that walk after all (or she’d just had enough and was going to leave us all to it!)  Whatever the reasons were, Pammy rather unceremoniously got up and headed for the door.  The baby’s head was clear as she made it to the far side of the room and it was at this point that Clare told me to forget the pool I’d been working so hard on and make with the camera!

A minute later Pammy was holding our daughter in her arms with an expression of such genuine surprise I found myself laughing.  She’d done it all without so much as a paracetamol!

It was an amazing experience and better still our son and daughter got to be present when their new sister was born.  We’d sent them upstairs with a promise to call them when everything started happening.  I hadn’t realised at the time, but Clare had the foresight to call them down from the cheap seats just in time for the big event.  A front row experience that few kids these days have been lucky enough to have.  My grandmother was appalled!  Not about the kids attending the birth, but that she herself as a child had never had this opportunity.  The old stork was the best she got from her mother, something our kids would never believe now!

Home birth and independent midwives are contentious topics among the medical community and after our experience, I’m finding it hard to see why.  We aren’t talking about gypsy fortune tellers here, nor are these women the Florence Nightingales of 60’s TV soaps, good only for a bit of bandaging.  Clare is one of the most highly educated people I know, decorated multiple times by her peers as one of the top performing Nurses and Midwives in the state.  All I can put it down to is that doctors don’t like making house calls and this is where the Independent Midwife comes into her own.

Scans and blood tests aside, Clare handled all our antenatal care from the comfort of our home.  She was always available when we needed her and she always kept our other children involved as much as possible.  A fantastic way to get rid of that anxiety some children feel when a new baby is going to be taking up all Mum and Dad’s time.

Liza Kennedy - Independent Midwife

As an added measure, Clare arranged for us to see a resident hospital Obstetrician to ensure all appropriate checks were made as well as engaging a backup Midwife, Liza Kennedy of the Conscious Conception and Birth Centre, to assist.

On the day, she performed the delivery with the highest degree of professionalism and handled all the normal outpatient checks you’d expect if we’d attended hospital.

Above all, she made it perfectly clear from the beginning that at the first sign of danger, we’d be going straight to our nearest Hospital.  Something we’d taken as a given from the start.

Far and away the best part about being in a subculture is you’re never alone.  Our fantastic friends and our upright local community has been with us all the way, even if just in spirit for some.  We’ve had more help adjusting to life with our new baby than we ever did with our first two children.  We’ve had friends cook and clean for us, well-wishers from all over town and more warmth than I’ve experienced for one thing in my entire life.

If you’re considering a home birth with an independent midwife, I honestly can’t recommend it enough.  These women can only be described as the practitioners of a higher art and one that should not be spoken of in hushed tones and thinly veiled scepticism.  As much as I love the idea of a shadowy rogue subculture, I look forward to the day that home birth midwives can rejoin the mainstream and step out into the light.


Empowered Births for Wise Women

Ph: 0403 968 409
Email: clare.davison@gmail.com

Clare Davison is one of Perth’s few truly independent registered midwives and runs Empowered Births for Wise Women, specialising in home birthing and childbirth education.


Conscious Conception and Birth Centre

Ph: 08 6196 0463
Email: mail@ccbcwa.com.au
Address: 1 Lefroy Road, Mt Nasura 6112, WA

The Conscious Conception and Birth Centre is run by Liza and David Kennedy.  They offer a huge range of holistic health & education resources for preconception, pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and beyond.

Rainbow Pammy
Rainbow Pammy is a certfied Ashtanga Yoga Instructor and children’s development specialist with over 16 years experience as a qualifed child care worker, teacher’s aide and mother. She developed Rainbow Yogis by taking her years of experience working with children, a love of the environment, plus a lifelong obsession with yoga and smooshing it all together!


  • Zara Gray
    January 31, 2012

    I really enjoyed reading this and felt like I was right there with you!!
    Pam is amazing and from meeting Clare only briefly, I could tell that she was extremely skilled and knowledgeable.

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